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Love Bytes for April: When to say no! Fight stress with aromas, romantic shrimp scampi
April 01, 2010

Love Bytes, Issue #023 -- When To Say No! * Fight Stress with Aromatherapy * Shrimp Scampi

April 01, 2010
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"If it is your time, love will track you down like a cruise missile."

Lynda Barry

Sexual Intimacy... When to say NO!


Are you currently embroiled in the confusing, energy-draining, esteem-bashing game called DATING? Sucks, doesn't it?

Whether you are a young newbie, fresh on scene, or a hardened veteran of the divorce wars, dating can be a very trying and heart-breaking experience for you. And one of the hardest things to figure out, and adhere to, is a good "intimacy policy" that will help you assure success in finding and keeping a quality long-term relationship, while keeping your self-esteem intact at the same time.

Well, remember what your Mama used to tell you? ("If you give in, he won't respect you!")? Although this bit of advice sounds dated and old-fashioned, there is a ring of truth to it... For some great advice on "When to say NO" to sex, visit our practical, specific, commonsense guide at Sensuous Woman.


Stressed out? Turn to aromatherapy for help...

The ambient odors of orange and lavender have been proven to reduce anxiety!

Odors have long been known to be capable of altering the emotional state of humans. Physiological and psychological effects of essential oils have been acknowledged in folk medicine and aromatherapy for a long time. Citrus and lavender fragrances have been particularly attributed with mood enhancing properties by aromatherapists.

Recently, a study published in the September issue of the journal Physiology & Behavior, documented an investigation into the impact of the essential oils of orange and lavender on anxiety, mood, alertness and calmness… in dental patients. A second goal of the study was to investigate whether stimuli from other modalities, music for example, have the same effect.

The researchers tested this hypothesis in a controlled experimental study taking advantage of the highly emotional situation usually encountered in a dentist's waiting room. While waiting for their dental procedures, patients were stimulated either with the ambient odor of orange or of lavender. These conditions were compared to a music condition and a control condition (no odor, no music). It was found that patients who were exposed to orange or lavender odor had a lower level of anxiety, a more positive mood, and a higher level of calmness compared to the patients in the control condition.

The results of this study confirmed the previous notion of sedative properties of the natural essential oil of orange in a clinical setting and extended it to the essential oil of lavender. The study further found that exposure to music in a dentist's waiting room has an intermediate effect, not as pronounced as the aromatherapy effect.

In conclusion, the study supports the traditional use of essential oils in altering emotional states. It also demonstrated that essential oils, used as ambient odors, might be helpful to reduce anxiety and improve mood in dental offices. Take advantage of this scientific research to reduce stress around your own home, with the use of orange and lavender essential oils!


Shrimp Scampi for Two

Melt his heart with this gourmet man-pleasing favorite!

1/2 cup butter
1 teaspoon salt
3 cloves garlic, crushed
2 teaspoons lemon peel
2 tablespoons lemon juice
2 pounds jumbo shrimp
1/4 cup parsley

Put in sauce pan and melt together-let sit until ready to cook. Peel shrimp and add to above sauce and sauté until done. (About 2-4 min.) Sprinkle parsley as you cook. Serve with parsley and lemon wedges to garnish. Spoon excess sauce from pan over shrimp. Excellent over pasta and accompanied with a Caesar salad.

Makes 2 Servings.


*Romance Tip: Make the effort!

Creating a romantic setting takes your love a long way, and shows you care about the quality of your relationship.  You can create a romantic setting in your home/bedroom with aromatic candles, fragrant incense sticks, soft and romantic music, a bottle of champagne, and fresh flowers. Change your home accessories like sofa covers, sheets, pillow covers, etc. Purchase colorful covers instead, like yellow, deep red, maroon, burgundy, orange, or rust. Passion rules.

We hope you have enjoyed this issue of Love Bytes Ezine. Each month, we will bring you another inspiring photo, quote or poem, plus fresh new articles on love, intimacy, dating and relationships.


Cause if you don't have love, nothing else matters...


~Stella and the girls from

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