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January 01, 2010

Love Bytes, Issue #020 -- Down on Yourself? * Find 'Em Online! * It's In The Cards

January 01, 2010
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"We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness."

        ~Ellen Goodman

Down on yourself lately? Read this...


Are you trying to get ahead in the dating game? Then prepare first, go ahead: get yourself in shape, improve your appearance, get rid of some nasty habits. Educate yourself on dating etiquette. Ready? Then, relax. Take time out to enjoy the new, improved model. It's time now for you to come to the point where you honestly, sincerely don't care if you get a date or not!

This may not be easy, but you must gain peaceful acceptance of yourself, and where you are in your life. You must learn to love yourself first. Only then will true love come into your life. And it will happen when you least expect it to... when you're not looking for it.

Easy for us to say, huh? But how do you do this? Learn to love yourself? We each had different ways of saying it, so we figured that if each of us told our story, and how we came to peace, you might find your own path to happiness, too... read our most excellent  Self Esteem Article.

P. S. This article is also very helpful even if you are already in a relationship.


Find 'Em Online!


"Hi". It's a simple word sure enough, and it can be quite an ice breaker too, but if you're out of practice of simply saying hello to strangers, then fear not, as the explosion of the adult dating sites has opened up a whole new medium for meeting other like minded singles. You see, dating in the real world has evolved into somewhat of a daunting task. Chatting to a potential mate has become more like an interview as potential daters attempt to suss each others worthiness out before committing to that first rendezvous together.

When I first head about adult dating sites, I though such methods of hooking up were for losers or perhaps weirdoes who simply lived in a virtual world with virtual partners. Oh how wrong was I! There are hundreds of thousands, if not millions of lonely folks out there in the real world who have found themselves in a singles quandary after coming out of a marriage or long term relationship. If you're out of practice and don't fancy the idea of skulking around the bars and night clubs, then adult dating sites could be just what you need to find your next soul mate.

Many of these adult dating sites work like this; you create a profile of yourself by filling in a questionnaire. Most require that you add a short description of yourself outlining your likes and dislikes. Finally, and this is important, you get the option of including a photo or two of your best mug shot. You don't have to but think how many ads you would consider if they were simply text based? Most singles filter their searches to find only those profiles with pictures, so it really is recommended it you are serious about finding a date.

Most adult dating sites will give you a free membership but it usually has restrictions. You will be allowed to view all the singles on the site, but if you want to correspond with any of them, you will have to become a paid member in most cases. This is a great way to find the adult dating sites that interest you without that financial commitment. Only when you find a site or two that you like, do you need to get the ole credit card out, but don't worry, most of these memberships are very reasonable.

Not all adult dating sites are for careful profile searchers though and some have services which have special categories such as speed dating forums, or special search functions for fetishes, or other bizarre preferences.

Whoever you would like to meet, be it a fellow Christian or Jew, Asian or Caucasian, tall slender, young or old, then the world is your oyster with the ever growing popularity of the adult dating sites. Take it easy, be patient and persistent in your search for that certain somebody, and you will surely trek down that road of happy relationship in no time. Good luck!

~by Mike South, writer and webmaster for Dates Allowed dot com

Check out our own concise and useful  Online Dating Guide.


Tarot for guidance?


The tarot is a set of cards used in fortune-telling. A few years ago, tarot cards would have conjured up images of Gypsies, who first began using tarot cards in the 20th century. Today, the cards are popular among occultists and New Agers in all walks of life, for fun, entertainment, and perspective into the inner self. According to Grillot de Givry (1971):

"The tarot is one of the most wonderful of human inventions. Despite all the outcries of philosophers, this pack of pictures, in which destiny is reflected as in a mirror with multiple facets, remains so vital and exercises so irresistible an attraction on imaginative minds that it is hardly possible that austere critics who speak in the name of an exact but uninteresting logic should ever succeed in abolishing its employment."

 Visit our informative Tarot page at  Romance Tarot .


Romance Tip: Give each other space, and time alone... everyone needs this type of space, without explanation. Keep some of your own friends, interests and activities. You're not joined at the hip, you know. And cling to your own opinions, religious beliefs and political leanings. You don't have to think alike. Celebrate your differences, and accept each other's limitations.

We hope you have enjoyed this issue of Love Bytes Ezine. Each month, we will bring you another inspiring photo, quote or poem, plus fresh new articles on love, intimacy, dating and relationships.


Cause if you don't have love, nothing else matters...


~Stella and the girls from

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