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Love Bytes for July: Morning After * Life's Journey * Dress for Success
July 01, 2011

Love Bytes, Issue #038-- The Morning After * Life's Journey * Dress For Success

July, 2011
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"Love is like a butterfly, it settles upon you when you least expect it."
        ~ Anon

The Morning After... After I Do comes True Love

Seriously, love doesn't have much to do with a skimpy
red negligee or a box of chocolates presented on Valentine's

Love is scurrying into the bathroom to rub your spouse's
back when he's retching with the flu. It's scurrying back
out after he begs you to leave. True love is scrubbing that
toilet with Comet the next day.

Romance is when your spouse leans over in the booth and
offers you his lobster. He says, "Take a bite," and
doesn't cringe if it's a huge one.

It's sharing a newspaper in the morning and refolding the
section he likes. It's not letting him walk around with a
huge glob of goop in the corner of his eye.

At a recent wedding, I listened to the marriage vows with
renewed interest. The bride and groom promised to be tender
with each other's hearts. They pledged to listen to one
another, to be kind and gentle.

What the young couple may not know yet is that love teeters
on a line. If it loses its balance and falls off the line,
love becomes critical, angry and jealous. One day, you're
flittering about like a lovebird and the next you're pulling
on a diaper and wig and heading to Orlando, mace in hand.

Tenderness keeps you on the line. When life gets in the way,
with its cancers and blemishes, stomach viruses and bruises,
tenderness prevents you from railing against your mate and
reminds you to turn to him with love.

It's not until after the wedding that we fully understand
the vows. When my husband quoted from the Book of Ruth,
stating, "Where you go, I will go, where you lodge, I will
lodge," I figured it meant location. So when our military
orders sent him to Virginia, Orange County and the desert, I
went with him.

Now I know that we really pledged something totally different.
When you lodge in misery, so will I. When you confront troubles,
so will I. When you fall, I will be your soft place to land.

Conversely, when you rejoice and celebrate, I will fill the
balloons with helium. Whether we're on the mountaintop or in
the valley, we'll be there together.

The reality of love is rescuing each other when the car
breaks down and letting the one who's more tired take the
nap. It's yummier than chocolate and sexier than negligees
and can't be summed up in a two-line greeting card. 

Vow today you'll always be tender with his or her heart.

Jenny Sokol
The Orange County Register

*** For some of the best advice for long-term lovers we have ever seen, visit our webpage: Pearls of Wisdom !


Life's Journey...


Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely and in
a well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways,
totally worn out, shouting "Holy shit, what a ride!"


*Romance Tip: Dress for success! Wear something new and attractive for your partner. This can help to spice up your love life because it shows that you care. Dress up for him or her, and feel the love and warmth spread.

We hope you have enjoyed this issue of Love Bytes Ezine. Each month, we will bring you another inspiring photo, quote or poem, plus fresh new articles on love, intimacy, dating and relationships.


Cause if you don't have love, nothing else matters...


~Stella and the girls from

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