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Love Bytes for March: True love? Get a second date, romantic steak dinner
March 01, 2010

Love Bytes, Issue #022 --Does True Love Really Exist? * How to Wrap Up a Great Date * Romantic Steak Dinner

March 01, 2010
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What is this thing called love?
This funny thing called love?
Just who can solve its mystery?
Why should it make a fool of me?

I saw you there one wonderful day
You took my heart and threw it away
That's why I ask the lord in heaven above
What is this thing called love?

            ~Pop song from the 40s, by Cole Porter

Does True Love Really Exist?

Love has been the topic of countless articles, books, discussions, many sleepless nights, and literally thousands of popular songs. So my question is this: Does true love really exist?

Yes, I believe it does. It just doesn't take the form you might normally recognize. It's not surprising to ask this question, because some of the affairs we witness in our society today are more often than not based on physical appearances and/or sexual attraction, and have lacked that true strong feeling called love. True love comprises yearning for each other, sharing, laughing together and being life companions, forever friends.

These are some of the attributes missing in many marriages today. I think in most cases, the husband and wife are caught in a trap or "farce". Marriage was necessary in order to be socially acceptable. If the relationship is based on superficial things, the two basically just get fed up with each other within the first 2-3 years. After that, it's just the same old life and its responsibilities and of course, the intimate capsule called sex. Relationships based on physical attraction just do not last through the years. If a "pure" thing such as true love is to exist, then first it has to be far, far away from sexual attraction/physical appearance; and second it has to be "forever".

The relationship that I believe we should be fostering in our lives and marriages is "friendship"--- understanding, sharing, and laughing together. I feel that some couples just start pretending to themselves that they are in love, as I have seen this in many affairs. I think there are a lot of other feelings which seem to be close to love but they are not, they just masquerade as "love".

In the end, TRUE LOVE can exist between couples -- but it is rare! True love is based on sacrifice, where you totally give 100% to the beloved, and expect nothing in return.

The best way to express TRUE LOVE is to try to be selfless and kind, and first of all love God and then hope to love God's creation as well. As for the typical human relationships, mostly they are based on attachment, lust, or social convenience. But if two people marry consciously with the aspiration to blend their souls into one, and to serve and support each other, THEN I believe THAT will grow into TRUE LOVE.

For some great long-term relationship advice to help you and your sweetie endure the ages... visit our  Pearls of Wisdom.


Happy Endings: How to Wrap Up a Great Date...And ask for more!

When it comes to dating, most of us are cowards. Even if we had a great time, we often spend days afterward agonizing over a follow-up call and invitation for another date. Nobody likes rejection and it can be hard to put yourself out there, but with this great advice, you can make it clear you'd be up for another get-together (and maximize your chances for a call-back date!)

Run the Highlight Reel
Reassure your date of your favorable impression of him or her by saying how much fun you had. Be specific and throw in a compliment for good measure. For example, "Tooling around in go-carts was such a blast. You'll have to give me some driving lessons."

Show Off Your Listening Skills
Did he mention a work deadline? Wish him luck. Her Mom's sick? Tell her you hope she feels better. The end of the date is a great time to impress him or her with how well you've been paying attention.

Have a (Good) Next Date Idea
Think about any interesting hobbies or interests your date might have named and propose one of them for your second date activity. Tell her you would like to see (her favorite band) in person...would she like to go? There's a guided nature walk at one of his usual hiking spots...maybe you could hike it together, with a picnic lunch?

Don't be Coy
How many times have you left a first date wondering if they felt as strong a connection as you did? If you're interested, say so, or you might not get a second chance. Not in a scary "I want to have your babies" kind of way, but in a "That was fun and I'd like to do it again sometime" way. Hard to do? Yeah, a little. But it's so sweetly flattering that your date almost has to say something nice in response. You won't know if you don't try...

NOW, for a comprehensive and useful guide to dating for dummies...
Go to our: Dating Tips


What's For Dinner? How Bout Steak!

What could be more romantic than a delicious steak dinner for two? This is soooo easy, skillet seared...but yummy!!! And don't forget the candles...


Your favorite tender steak cuts: NY strip, strip sirloin, filet mignon
Fresh whole peppercorns
2 tsp. salt
¼ cup butter
1 tsp. Worchestershire sauce
1 tblsp. lemon or lime juice
2 or 3 rounds thinly sliced onion (if desired)

In small skillet, melt butter, saute onion til tender, add Worchestershire and lemon juice. Set aside and serve with finished steaks.
Crush peppercorns on a plate, using the bottom of a pan to crush (do not grind).
Press the steaks into the crushed pepper, coating both sides. Work the pepper into the meat, using the heel of your hand. Place large skillet over high heat. Sprinkle bottom of skillet with 2 tsp. salt. Let heat until salt begins to brown, then place steaks in the skillet. Sear meat over high heat, browning both sides, reduce burner to medium, and cook steaks to desired doneness. Remove from pan, place on platter and top with the butter mixture. (Do not use the drippings from the meat skillet). Delicioso...

Hey, for more great pointers on cooking man-pleasing foods, visit Food For Lovers!


*Romance Tip: Always express your love!
Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners tend to stop praising each other because they ‘assume’ their partner already knows what they’re thinking. If you want to be loved and romanced by your mate, love and romance them first. When they’re feeling loved, it is much easier to love in return.

We hope you have enjoyed this issue of Love Bytes Ezine. Each month, we will bring you another inspiring photo, quote or poem, plus fresh new articles on love, intimacy, dating and relationships.


Cause if you don't have love, nothing else matters...


~Stella and the girls from

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