Broken Hearted T

by T
(Tennessee)

I have been in a relationship with a woman for 5 years. The first 4 years, she was married. Although she says she never really loved him, just married for convenience. We lived 2 hours apart and usually saw each other only on the weekends during this entire time, even the past year after she divorced him. She has always said that she loves me and that I am the man of her dreams. I admit we have had some problems with arguing, usually about little stuff that really didn't add up to much when we stepped back and looked at the big picture, but we have had alot of great times together and shared so many new experiences with each other. Now she says she wants her space and she's told all her friends and family that we are parting ways. She says to me that she still loves me, but feels like we need to take a break. Mainly that she needs a break to figure out if she can do ok by herself. This is killing me because I truly love this woman and felt like she loved me all this time. She has dropped a major bomb on me and I don't know what to do ?? Any help would be greatly appreciated !!

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Answer from Stella:

Dear T,
You know, it looks like you don't have any choices or options except to give her what she wants... space and time.

Sadly, it does not look like this relationship has much of a future. Let her go, mourn the loss, take your lumps, and get on with your life.

I am so sorry, and I do hope this helps you!

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