Broken Hearted T

by T
(Tennessee)

I have been in a relationship with a woman for 5 years. The first 4 years, she was married. Although she says she never really loved him, just married for convenience. We lived 2 hours apart and usually saw each other only on the weekends during this entire time, even the past year after she divorced him. She has always said that she loves me and that I am the man of her dreams. I admit we have had some problems with arguing, usually about little stuff that really didn't add up to much when we stepped back and looked at the big picture, but we have had alot of great times together and shared so many new experiences with each other. Now she says she wants her space and she's told all her friends and family that we are parting ways. She says to me that she still loves me, but feels like we need to take a break. Mainly that she needs a break to figure out if she can do ok by herself. This is killing me because I truly love this woman and felt like she loved me all this time. She has dropped a major bomb on me and I don't know what to do ?? Any help would be greatly appreciated !!


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Answer from Stella:

Dear T,
You know, it looks like you don't have any choices or options except to give her what she wants... space and time.

Sadly, it does not look like this relationship has much of a future. Let her go, mourn the loss, take your lumps, and get on with your life.

I am so sorry, and I do hope this helps you!

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Broken Hearted T
by: Anonymous

Sounds like when she was married it was "exciting" to be with you and yet not a total committment. Maybe now that she is out of her marriage its not quite the thrill any longer. I have to agree with Stella on this one. Sounds like for now the "spark" is out. However, I am a true romantic at heart and from past experiences I have learned one very important thing. Give her the space she is asking for...maybe that is what she will need for now. She will know for sure in time without you. Do NOT take her calls in the middle of the night or any other time...(alcohol could be a factor and in the moment she may want you back only to wake up the next day and regret the call)...Yet within a couple of months bump into her, have a "how are you doing, great to see you, running late, take care" conversation...This will surely have you on her mind for the rest of the day (if you haven't already been on her mind)..if she calls after that, take the call...At that time, you will know and if she does call, she has already found out..you are missed !
Good Luck T

What??
by: Anonymous

Oh boy. You love her!!! If you truly do then you won't let her go. You will fight! You have to fight. Even if you get hurt. That's what real love is to my opinion.
Also, she just needs time to figure out her feelings...
And remember. Let it go and if it comes back then it is meant to be.

Good luck! Figure out YOUR feelings

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