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Lonely and Unsure  My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 years off and on. We live together now and we have a 16 month old and new born now. We used to love ...

Getting my girl back  I had a girlfriend for two years, after which we took a break. The break was supposed to help us realize how much we wanted each other back, but things ...

Confused  I am 25 years old and I have been dating the same girl for the past 4 years and up until now everything has been great. It's just as of late she has been ...

trying to understand  I am 23 years old and I have been with my bf for a little over a year. Recently we have kinda cooled down with our relationship because he feels he is ...

Will he want me back again?  I met a man in 2001 and we dated up until Jan/08. After I had found him a good paying job in Alberta and he knew I would be moving into to a small apartment ...

Me or the Dog  My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We have a great relationship with only one problem: his dog.

He is utterly convinced that ...

The old 1-2  Me and my fiance have been together for about a year now. We were in love from the very start and our relationship moved fast. We moved in after a month,...

Am I Invisible?  I feel so lonely and depressed, I don't know what to do. Hubby doesn't even act like he is the least bit interested in me anymore. He has barely said 2 ...

Gross Gas Problem  I have a problem that is probably as much medical as it is relationship oriented, and sort of gross. So, let me apologize in advance. I am engaged to ...

Major Bump in the Road... the Baby Might Be His!  Maybe someone can help me!! I have been seeing this guy for a few months and I am totally and completely in love with him. I was going to uproot my life ...

Finding the Courage to move on  I am a 47 year old married woman with 5 beautiful adult children. Married for 31 years and this month will make 32. I have been with him for more than ...

Marriage for Money?  I am 24 and have been married for 5 months. I married for money, not my husband's, but my father-in-law's; who promised to help my dad out with some business ...

Torn Three Ways...  I am a 17 year old girl. I love a guy and we are in a relationship for the past 4 years. First it was all fine between us but gradually as we have grown ...

My Ex   We split up 5 days ago and he moved straight in with his new lady. We had been together for 12 years when he left me and our 10 yr old daughter. He told ...

Should I Hope & Wait?  I met this guy thru online dating almost a month ago. We started chatting and texting all the time. We had this amazing connection that I never felt with ...

Heartbroken but Committed  Until a week ago, I was a happily married man and I thought my wife and I were going to be together forever. Then I found an ex-boyfriend of hers on the ...

The Down-hill Slide  My husband and I have been together for seven years this June. And we are on a downhill slide where we are fighting all the time. And about every little ...

Got Scared By The Opportunity  I have a very close friend who I have gotten feelings for recently. It is somewhat mutual. I was with her today and there were several times it seemed ...

loves me loves me not  Dear Stella,
I am a 50 year old woman and have been dating a 51 year old man for 13 months. I told him 7 months ago that I have strong feelings for him;...

Help...  What will I do if the one I truly love doesn't love me back?
I have done all that I can to show her how much I love her.. but still I can't feel her love ...

My Parents Disapprove of Him  I'm in love with a guy who is 8 years older than me. I'm 19 and he's 27. He wants to marry me and is willing to wait for me to finish school. My parents ...

Did Video Games Kill My Marriage?  My wife of four years just told me she doesn't love me anymore. She says she still cares for me but doesn't feel the same as when we dated/got married....

Now She Wants a Second Chance...  I was with a girl who I truly loved, but things went wrong in our relationship and she left me. I practically begged her for a second chance, but she denied ...

Ready To Walk, But Just Cant Leave  I'm a 25 year old recent college grad. After 6 years of school, having 2 children, and a whole lot of stress and life ups and downs, I'm ready to make ...

Forbidden to Wear a Bra!  I am a just turned 31 year old, married, mother of an 11 year old girl. My husband insists that at nights, on weekends, and on vacations, including summer ...

My girlfriend doesn't trust me and has now left me  The title pretty much says it all. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and I love her more than anything on this Earth. I would give up everything ...

Husband or College Sweetheart?  Dear Stella,

I have really messed things up. I am a very conservative woman in all aspects of my life and have never been a risk-taker. I have done ...

Confused? She sends mixed signals?  I met this woman back in February by chance and we hit it off. We live 5 hours apart and the distance made it difficult. We decided to back off and when ...

Our 8:00 Rule  During our 2 years together, my husband has always had a soft spot for nudity. We sort of have this understanding or rule that we call our 8:00 rule. This ...

Hubby Wants to Meet Evil Mom  I am a 23 year old new mom. My husband wants to meet my mom and have her as a part of our lives. We are in Texas. She is in Florida. She made a plea ...

Hooked on porn! (confused woman)  I have lived with my fiance' for 5 yrs now. We love each other so much and we have good times together all the time but there is a problem; he is hooked ...

Wide Ride or JLo Butt?  I am a 31 year-old woman and newlywed. I have a figure that although I am not heavy, flares at the hips. I have a sort of JLO/Beyonce butt.

My husband,...

Older woman, younger man...  I'm 50 and have been in a love relationship with a younger man , 27 yrs old, who's a graduate student. After practically living together for a year I ...

long distant relationship  I've finally found someone real special, better than anyone I have ever been with. I am in military family and I had to move from Louisiana to New york....

Should I let go?  I've been dating him for a year and he doesn't want to be alone with me because he thinks that I will try to initiate sex. We haven't had sex because ...

The one that got away...  I have been in a marriage to the perfect wife and mother to our 9 year old boy for 10 years. My wife has done nothing but be true and faithful the entire ...

Sex every 4 years?  We got married fall 2003. I was 30 and my husband was 35. At the end of 2004 we had our child. Since the birth of the child, my husband and I have been ...

Im so in love with my ex =[  Dear Stella
I never told anyone this..but it's been years... I decided I have to let it out...

I'm so in love with my ex boyfriend he was my 2nd ...

Married But Lonely  Hi Stella
I am a 48 year old female, married for the 2nd time been with my present hubby 16 years. My problem is my husband.

He has no respect for ...

Teresa  My husband of 26 years left me for his best friends wife, my "friend". We have 3 grown daughters who basically took care of me while I hid in the bedroom ...

Need advice  Dear Stella,

I write to you because I really need help. I’m 18 years old and I have never had a girlfriend. And now to the problem...

I met one girl ...

Don't feel the same   Me and my husband have been married 4 years now, and from the honeymoon on, he turned into a different man. He immediatly got too serious about marriage ...

Brian  Dear Stella,
I married Adina back in October of 2008. It was love at first sight. Lately, I have seen some changes in her. No, I don't think that there ...

Renewing an Old Relationship  I am 41 and have renewed a relationship with a man who fathered my daughter when we were both in college. We never married, but he acknowledged and took ...

Please Help, I Have Never Been This Confused!!  I am 27 and have been “dating” a 25 year old guy for a little over a year on and off (on now for the past few months). We are not officially together as ...

how can i get my husband to stay  Me and my husband have been married for seven years. He has left I would say at least 15 times since we have been married! If I say one wrong thing to ...

Cut him loose or fight?  Dear Stella,

I was in a relationship with "Dan" about 6 years ago. We lived together but it did not work out. In spite of that, we remained friends....

What makes men back off from a woman?  Was dating a man for 9 months; things were great. At 7 months he began to back off. What happened?? I am so very confused. He even told me to start dating ...

Should I Stay?  I have been dating a great guy for the past 3 and a half years. In that time we have had very few fights, we get along well, he is generally a great guy....

Work colleague  Wow - where to start - Single guy meets girl at work who is amazing. They spend time together at shopping centres, go for burgers at lunch, meet under ...

so bored ....what to do..  good day to you miss stella..


you see i have been going steady with this guy for 2 months....

problem is..
we haven't kissed yet...
he said he'...

Fling vs. Marriage  I have a 5 yr steady relationship with my first boyfriend W since our tertiary days. Recently, I met a british guy (he is my customer) and we hit it off ...

Elderly father moving in  I currently live with my girlfriend in her house. (not my idea) but putting that aside, her elderly father is now suffering from some health problems and ...

I Can't Ask Her Out  So here's the deal; I'm secretly in love with her for 3 or 4 years now and I know that at least she was in love with me (even if she isn't now). My problem ...

30 years have past  I dated a woman 30 years ago and I broke it off at the time because I wasn't ready for the feelings I was having. We both went on with our lives but earlier ...

Orginal Feelings Gone!  My boyfriend and I started dating in 2005, when we were around 16. It wasn't long after that until we fell in love. We never really had any major fights ...

My BF can't deal that I defeated him  Dear Stella

Basically, I think my boyfriend is being really pissy over something I didn't think was a big deal. We were talking the other day about ...

Tied Between Two  I am in a relationship with a man with children. We have been living together and things are good; we don't argue or fight, and the kids accept me as ...

Do I move on or be patient and wait for him to heal?  I am 49, divorced after 26 years of marriage, 3 years now; money, possessions and heart all taken. I have moved on, but have met a lot of terrible men....

New Relationship  I met a guy back in July. I had talked to him once over the phone but we met in person at our friends wedding. He seems like a nice guy. I kind of felt ...

He's Coming Back! What Should I Do?  I dated this guy on the same b-ball club as me for 8 months, but then he was going to Australia for his studies in late 2007. We did not talk about Australia ...

Yikes... Her Biological Clock is Ticking...  I'm a 28 yr old male who has been in a relationship for 5 years with a woman who is 37. I love her dearly but there's a problem.She is ready to have children,...

Pictures are worth a thousand words  Dear Stella

My girlfriend keeps a shoebox of pictures that she has collected over the years. A lot of the pictures in the box are really questionable,...

No sex marriage   We have been married for over 6 years now. We are from two different countries, with different background. We fell in love and married 4 months after we ...

Should I Propose?  For the past couple of months I had been trying to work out a reconciliation with an ex who dumped me and is now with someone else. I was on the rebound ...

Stay or go?  I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years. I can't help but feel unhappy with him, but I am afraid that it is just my own fear of commitment in ...

Is it a Deal Breaker or Not?  While "snooping" around my boyfriend's apartment I came across his phone bill and discovered that he has been calling local "chat" lines when we are apart....

I don't want to loose him ...  Me and my boyfriend were so in love when we first got together, it was perfect. We were inseparable. I moved in with him and his 2 year old son and we ...

Stay a Family or Be a Single Parent?  I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years; we have known each other for over 6 years. We have a 21-month-old child together. I love him very much ...

Are we ready for marriage?   We met in May of 2004, got pregnant in Sept 2004, moved in together in Feb of 2005 and have been together ever since. I believe that for the first year ...

I'm Jealous  DEAR STELLA: I have a bf now...but I cannot control my jealousy to my bf although he loves me... What should I do?
FROM STELLA: Dear Maureen, First ...