I am confused...Is she making me work hard for it?  I met this girl a year and a half ago. We were both into each other and in turn I got really busy and never called her. I ran into a mutual acquaintance ...

Lack of Trust   Hello, my girlfriend of nearly four years has been breaking up with me, four times in the last month, then getting back together. The core of this issue ...

In Love But Have Had Doubts  Dear Stella,

I have been in love with the coolest man that I have ever met for almost 3 years. Every other relationship I have been in with a man (except ...

What to do?  I'm in love with someone! I know, I'm only 14, but I really am in love. Only problem is, I don't know if he likes me. I know he's had a crush on an idiotic ...

Is this a phase or am I really not in love?  My boyfriend and I have been together for three years - high school sweethearts, currently in college and we're each other's first loves! I know for sure ...

Hurt & confused  I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now. However we have recently split. He says he wants to work things out with me. You see, he has lied and ...

Marriage Problems  My husband and I have been married for almost a year. For the past couple of months, we have been having some problems. We argue pretty much all the time....

I got cheated on, and she left me.  My wife and I were got married on September 19, 2008, though in total we've been together for 6 years. My wife left me for another man, kicked me out of ...

Dazed and Confused  Have been married for over 20 years. Have never cheated and neither has she. However, for the last year I have developed a friendly relationship with a ...

Confused  I am 29, and have been dating this man for 10 months. He isn't and never has been affectionate. We have kissed maybe a handful of times. He doesn't hug ...

Aged 15, going on 16 and never been in love  Dear Stella,

I've just left secondary school and im moving onto college. But there's a problem. I've never been in love. I haven't even had a crush....

Brian  Dear Stella,
I married Adina back in October of 2008. It was love at first sight. Lately, I have seen some changes in her. No, I don't think that there ...

My BF can't deal that I defeated him  Dear Stella

Basically, I think my boyfriend is being really pissy over something I didn't think was a big deal. We were talking the other day about ...

Tied Between Two  I am in a relationship with a man with children. We have been living together and things are good; we don't argue or fight, and the kids accept me as ...

Lonely and Unsure  My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 years off and on. We live together now and we have a 16 month old and new born now. We used to love ...

long distant relationship  I've finally found someone real special, better than anyone I have ever been with. I am in military family and I had to move from Louisiana to New york....

Getting my girl back  I had a girlfriend for two years, after which we took a break. The break was supposed to help us realize how much we wanted each other back, but things ...

My girlfriend doesn't trust me and has now left me  The title pretty much says it all. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and I love her more than anything on this Earth. I would give up everything ...

Did Video Games Kill My Marriage?  My wife of four years just told me she doesn't love me anymore. She says she still cares for me but doesn't feel the same as when we dated/got married....

Confused  I am 25 years old and I have been dating the same girl for the past 4 years and up until now everything has been great. It's just as of late she has been ...

Husband or College Sweetheart?  Dear Stella,

I have really messed things up. I am a very conservative woman in all aspects of my life and have never been a risk-taker. I have done ...

trying to understand  I am 23 years old and I have been with my bf for a little over a year. Recently we have kinda cooled down with our relationship because he feels he is ...

Confused? She sends mixed signals?  I met this woman back in February by chance and we hit it off. We live 5 hours apart and the distance made it difficult. We decided to back off and when ...

Will he want me back again?  I met a man in 2001 and we dated up until Jan/08. After I had found him a good paying job in Alberta and he knew I would be moving into to a small apartment ...

Ready To Walk, But Just Cant Leave  I'm a 25 year old recent college grad. After 6 years of school, having 2 children, and a whole lot of stress and life ups and downs, I'm ready to make ...

Me or the Dog  My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We have a great relationship with only one problem: his dog.

He is utterly convinced that ...

The old 1-2  Me and my fiance have been together for about a year now. We were in love from the very start and our relationship moved fast. We moved in after a month,...

Am I Invisible?  I feel so lonely and depressed, I don't know what to do. Hubby doesn't even act like he is the least bit interested in me anymore. He has barely said 2 ...

Gross Gas Problem  I have a problem that is probably as much medical as it is relationship oriented, and sort of gross. So, let me apologize in advance. I am engaged to ...

Our 8:00 Rule  During our 2 years together, my husband has always had a soft spot for nudity. We sort of have this understanding or rule that we call our 8:00 rule. This ...

Hubby Wants to Meet Evil Mom  I am a 23 year old new mom. My husband wants to meet my mom and have her as a part of our lives. We are in Texas. She is in Florida. She made a plea ...

Should I let go?  I've been dating him for a year and he doesn't want to be alone with me because he thinks that I will try to initiate sex. We haven't had sex because ...

The one that got away...  I have been in a marriage to the perfect wife and mother to our 9 year old boy for 10 years. My wife has done nothing but be true and faithful the entire ...

Major Bump in the Road... the Baby Might Be His!  Maybe someone can help me!! I have been seeing this guy for a few months and I am totally and completely in love with him. I was going to uproot my life ...

Forbidden to Wear a Bra!  I am a just turned 31 year old, married, mother of an 11 year old girl. My husband insists that at nights, on weekends, and on vacations, including summer ...

Hooked on porn! (confused woman)  I have lived with my fiance' for 5 yrs now. We love each other so much and we have good times together all the time but there is a problem; he is hooked ...

Finding the Courage to move on  I am a 47 year old married woman with 5 beautiful adult children. Married for 31 years and this month will make 32. I have been with him for more than ...

Marriage for Money?  I am 24 and have been married for 5 months. I married for money, not my husband's, but my father-in-law's; who promised to help my dad out with some business ...

Wide Ride or JLo Butt?  I am a 31 year-old woman and newlywed. I have a figure that although I am not heavy, flares at the hips. I have a sort of JLO/Beyonce butt.

My husband,...

Older woman, younger man...  I'm 50 and have been in a love relationship with a younger man , 27 yrs old, who's a graduate student. After practically living together for a year I ...

Torn Three Ways...  I am a 17 year old girl. I love a guy and we are in a relationship for the past 4 years. First it was all fine between us but gradually as we have grown ...

My Ex   We split up 5 days ago and he moved straight in with his new lady. We had been together for 12 years when he left me and our 10 yr old daughter. He told ...

Should I Hope & Wait?  I met this guy thru online dating almost a month ago. We started chatting and texting all the time. We had this amazing connection that I never felt with ...

Heartbroken but Committed  Until a week ago, I was a happily married man and I thought my wife and I were going to be together forever. Then I found an ex-boyfriend of hers on the ...

The Down-hill Slide  My husband and I have been together for seven years this June. And we are on a downhill slide where we are fighting all the time. And about every little ...

Now She Wants a Second Chance...  I was with a girl who I truly loved, but things went wrong in our relationship and she left me. I practically begged her for a second chance, but she denied ...

Got Scared By The Opportunity  I have a very close friend who I have gotten feelings for recently. It is somewhat mutual. I was with her today and there were several times it seemed ...

loves me loves me not  Dear Stella,
I am a 50 year old woman and have been dating a 51 year old man for 13 months. I told him 7 months ago that I have strong feelings for him;...

Help...  What will I do if the one I truly love doesn't love me back?
I have done all that I can to show her how much I love her.. but still I can't feel her love ...

My Parents Disapprove of Him  I'm in love with a guy who is 8 years older than me. I'm 19 and he's 27. He wants to marry me and is willing to wait for me to finish school. My parents ...

Old enough to know better  It's been a horrible year. The death of a parent in January, job lay-off in June, and now a break up with my handsome and amazing boyfriend of 5-years....

Stay or Go?  Met a guy a few months ago and we really hit it off. Saw each other a few times but nothing serious. Now it's getting more serious and the ex is back in ...

totally screwed  My bf and I have been together for 6 yrs since his daughter was 6monthes old and my daughter was 3. We lived together for 3 yrs and he always slept with ...

Sex or no sex?  I recently got back with my ex and I am now beginning to wonder if it's time to have intimate relations with him. Before there was a little voice in my ...

Is there a hope or is it over?  I have been in a two year one off relationship with my boyfriend. He's 31, I am 39. At the outset, he was very attracted to me and still is, he was very ...

I'm lost  She and I left for St. Louis last Thursday to see my grandparents for the weekend. We got back on Sunday and she wanted to end things Monday night, less ...

Strange Relationship- Is it me or him?  Ok. I knew this guy for 3 years. In those 3 years he tried twice to start a relationship with me.I didn't do it because i was going through a separation ...

Is it over?  Hello! Ok, basically I've been in a relationship for 2 years now and I'm not sure if I'm in love anymore. When we first met he was perfect for me and in ...

My Ex left behind his stuff and owes me money!  Ok, I know the law, after 30 days it's called abandonment. I am not going into details, just want to do the right thing because I care for this man. I ...

It's like there are two of her.  I have been interested in this girl for about 3 months now. She is very pretty is why she first caught my eye, but in all honesty i'm not the kind of guy ...

I'm learning from my mistakes and I do not want to make any more   Dear Stella,

I came to another country because I fall in love with my ex, I followed him and left everything for love, at the begining I did very well ...

lover boy of SF  I'm a married man and had an extramarital affair with a single woman and she wants to have us a baby of our own, what should i do? we had this secret affair ...

Do i already know the man i am going to marry?  I am a 51 year old woman who has not been successful at love. i have had different relationships, but either end up hurt or hurting someone. I am a smoker ...

unhappy relationship  I have been dating this man for 10 months. I am 22 and he is 27 years old but he is very shy. In my past relationship i was so open and happy but unfortunately ...

Perfect partner but her kids dont want their dad ( rip ) replaced   Hi Stella
I recently met my dream lady and we are both very very happy with each other, we are so compatible with each other it is unbelievable and sometimes ...

Moving into my fiance's house  Hi Stella,

I'm a very self-sufficient woman who owns two properties in the DC area. My fiance also owns three. Two years ago we went house looking ...

Confused !  I went to a party last week, and a guy was there who I knew. We'd already talked before, but we didn't really know each other that much. So everyone was ...

Is he as interested as I am?  About four months ago I met Leonard at a small cocktail lounge where my sister works for extra money. I had talked with him from time to time but never ...

Am I overly insecure?  I have been seeing a man for almost 10 months. He moved in with me two months ago. He had lived with another girl for about 8 years and then she broke ...

Going from living together to Friends?  I met this man at work and knew he was an AWESOME man. He was not on my radar, as I was married. However, we ate lunch together often and hung out together ...

is it worth it  I recently started dating this really sweet guy and he has been the nicest guy I've ever met. The problem: he's not the cutest and the girls I hang out ...

Jimbo  My wife said she had fallen out of love with me for awhile now. About one month ago she went to my daughters place to stay because she needed some space....

A Really Complicated Situation.  My best friend introduced me to a girl, one he liked alot. He asked me to help him to be with her. He introduced us online, for I live in another country ...

Love Problem; parents not accepting  Me & my partner are in love with each other for the past 7 yrs. We both are from different religions. Hence our parents are not at all accepting of us ...

My Guy Likes Porn: I need another persons's opinion...  My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and we have been living together for almost 2 months. Before moving in together, we had this issue ...

Love Triangle  Dear Stella,
I have a problem... well... my guyfriend, he likes this girl and he doesn't know that I like him, and I don't know if he feels the same ...

He said he needs space  Dear Stella,

I am not happy with my live-in partner but I don't want to let him go. He even asked for space from me. He told me that he was happier ...

Spa Girl or old GF?  I am 27 years old. I have broken-up with my GF a year ago, after 12 years of relationship. This is because I felt there was no "MAGIC" anymore. Soon I ...

Miss In a Quandary...  I have been in love with my boyfriend for 2 years. We had a good relationship, he was supportive and I was telling myself that he was my future husband....

Ronz- Back off or pursue?  I fell in love with this girl and I know she felt the same way... but she already belongs to someone else. Because of my feelings for her, I made her confused ...

Voluntary Separation  My husband and I have been married for a year and half now. During this time we have only been able to see each other maybe 1 month out of the year due ...

A Simple Problem  My problem is real simple. There is a guy that I am so attracted to and at times he shows that he is very interested in me. We used to work together,...

What makes a good match?  I'm looking to do a speed dating event in my area for those of the more gothically inclined. (Detroit if anyone wants to attend) But, I need ideas for ...

Is He an Abuser?  I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 8 months. We live together and argue soooo much. He gets mad about me going on facebook and whenever I don'...

My head is spinning!!!  I am 27 years old and have been in an off and on relationship with a man for a year and a half. We'd been together for 3 months when I found out I was ...

Worry over husband's fidelity  I love my husband very much. A couple of years ago I went through some bad problems which put a strain on our marriage. I have always been insecure, but ...

Confused About Glasses  I wear glasses. On my last date, I wore transparent contact lenses to my date. My boyfriend told me he he finds me more cute with glasses! Just last month ...

Torn between two lovers  I met this guy from a restaurant, we became friends. He was so nice, open about his dreams and the kind of girl he wants to marry in the future. We both ...

Worried and not sure what to do.......  Dear Stella,

I met my current boyfriend when he was married, although nothing happened until they broke up and he moved out of their home in Australia....

Worried About Late Night Skinny Dips  I am a 28 year old woman. I live with my 32 year old fiance in a house he inherited from his grandma. The house has a pool. My fiance loves for us to ...

The Affair  Dear Stella

I've been married for 20 years and most of those years I've been unhappy in my marriage. My husband is a great guy, great father, great ...

Keep holding on...  I've been with this man for almost 6 years he decided out of nowhere, no warning, nothing, that he was done with the relationship. He has abandoned me ...

Long distance relationship problem  I am 17 and am from Mauritius. Girl's of my age here do not normally go out with boys, but most of them do it, secretly.

Am in a long distance relationship....

Can we ever get back to normal?  Hi Stella,

My boyfriend and I have been together in total for nearly 3 years. We had a very happy and good relationship and moved in together with ...

Love sick ( this one is a real MESS)  Hi guys, I have been dating a woman and in a lesbian relationship with her. We live a distance away and it's fairly hard to see each other. I have been ...

I was a Rebound to my wife of ten years, now she says she is not in love with me  I am 30 yrs and am in love and married to my wife of ten years. Before us she got out of a bad relationship; abusive, verbally and physically.

In her ...

Advice  Hello. I have been looking for someone to go to for a long time but I've never found anyone. This is the last place for me to look.

A few months ago,...

ChachaInips  I met a girl at work. I'm a lesbian and this girl is married with a child. I sensed something about her but i wasn't sure. Well anyways... we became friends ...

Shy Boyfriend  I am a 24 year old woman who is involved with a 30 year old divorced man. He had been married for 5 years. I've never been married (but am hopeful). He'...

Im so in love with my ex =[  Dear Stella
I never told anyone this..but it's been years... I decided I have to let it out...

I'm so in love with my ex boyfriend he was my 2nd ...

Married But Lonely  Hi Stella
I am a 48 year old female, married for the 2nd time been with my present hubby 16 years. My problem is my husband.

He has no respect for ...

Teresa  My husband of 26 years left me for his best friends wife, my "friend". We have 3 grown daughters who basically took care of me while I hid in the bedroom ...

Need advice  Dear Stella,

I write to you because I really need help. I’m 18 years old and I have never had a girlfriend. And now to the problem...

I met one girl ...

Don't feel the same   Me and my husband have been married 4 years now, and from the honeymoon on, he turned into a different man. He immediatly got too serious about marriage ...

Renewing an Old Relationship  I am 41 and have renewed a relationship with a man who fathered my daughter when we were both in college. We never married, but he acknowledged and took ...

Please Help, I Have Never Been This Confused!!  I am 27 and have been “dating” a 25 year old guy for a little over a year on and off (on now for the past few months). We are not officially together as ...

how can i get my husband to stay  Me and my husband have been married for seven years. He has left I would say at least 15 times since we have been married! If I say one wrong thing to ...

Cut him loose or fight?  Dear Stella,

I was in a relationship with "Dan" about 6 years ago. We lived together but it did not work out. In spite of that, we remained friends....

What makes men back off from a woman?  Was dating a man for 9 months; things were great. At 7 months he began to back off. What happened?? I am so very confused. He even told me to start dating ...

Should I Stay?  I have been dating a great guy for the past 3 and a half years. In that time we have had very few fights, we get along well, he is generally a great guy....

Work colleague  Wow - where to start - Single guy meets girl at work who is amazing. They spend time together at shopping centres, go for burgers at lunch, meet under ...

so bored ....what to do..  good day to you miss stella..


you see i have been going steady with this guy for 2 months....

problem is..
we haven't kissed yet...
he said he'...

Fling vs. Marriage  I have a 5 yr steady relationship with my first boyfriend W since our tertiary days. Recently, I met a british guy (he is my customer) and we hit it off ...

Elderly father moving in  I currently live with my girlfriend in her house. (not my idea) but putting that aside, her elderly father is now suffering from some health problems and ...

I Can't Ask Her Out  So here's the deal; I'm secretly in love with her for 3 or 4 years now and I know that at least she was in love with me (even if she isn't now). My problem ...

30 years have past  I dated a woman 30 years ago and I broke it off at the time because I wasn't ready for the feelings I was having. We both went on with our lives but earlier ...

Orginal Feelings Gone!  My boyfriend and I started dating in 2005, when we were around 16. It wasn't long after that until we fell in love. We never really had any major fights ...

Do I move on or be patient and wait for him to heal?  I am 49, divorced after 26 years of marriage, 3 years now; money, possessions and heart all taken. I have moved on, but have met a lot of terrible men....

New Relationship  I met a guy back in July. I had talked to him once over the phone but we met in person at our friends wedding. He seems like a nice guy. I kind of felt ...

He's Coming Back! What Should I Do?  I dated this guy on the same b-ball club as me for 8 months, but then he was going to Australia for his studies in late 2007. We did not talk about Australia ...

Yikes... Her Biological Clock is Ticking...  I'm a 28 yr old male who has been in a relationship for 5 years with a woman who is 37. I love her dearly but there's a problem.She is ready to have children,...

Pictures are worth a thousand words  Dear Stella

My girlfriend keeps a shoebox of pictures that she has collected over the years. A lot of the pictures in the box are really questionable,...

No sex marriage   We have been married for over 6 years now. We are from two different countries, with different background. We fell in love and married 4 months after we ...

Should I Propose?  For the past couple of months I had been trying to work out a reconciliation with an ex who dumped me and is now with someone else. I was on the rebound ...

Stay or go?  I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years. I can't help but feel unhappy with him, but I am afraid that it is just my own fear of commitment in ...

Is it a Deal Breaker or Not?  While "snooping" around my boyfriend's apartment I came across his phone bill and discovered that he has been calling local "chat" lines when we are apart....

I don't want to loose him ...  Me and my boyfriend were so in love when we first got together, it was perfect. We were inseparable. I moved in with him and his 2 year old son and we ...

Stay a Family or Be a Single Parent?  I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years; we have known each other for over 6 years. We have a 21-month-old child together. I love him very much ...

Are we ready for marriage?   We met in May of 2004, got pregnant in Sept 2004, moved in together in Feb of 2005 and have been together ever since. I believe that for the first year ...

I'm Jealous  DEAR STELLA: I have a bf now...but I cannot control my jealousy to my bf although he loves me... What should I do?
FROM STELLA: Dear Maureen, First ...