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by Tina
(Arkansas)

I am a just turned 31 year old, married, mother of an 11 year old girl. My husband insists that at nights, on weekends, and on vacations, including summer vacations from school, that I wear no bra. Bras are for work only. My husband told me in no uncertain terms that he absolutely forbids me to wear a bra during these times. He says this is natural, sexy, and that he likes the way my breasts bounce slightly without flopping or sagging.

Therein is the point. At 31 and by no means being flat chested, I am worried that my breasts will sag from the lack of support. Fortunately, I have never seen any evidence of this as I have remained firm. Also, my daughter has just started wearing a bra, which she fought me on because her father won't let me wear one.

How do I handle this?

Thanks,
Tina

From Stella:
First of all, Tina, at the risk of causing trouble between you and your husband, it's your body! Why would you let him "forbid" you to wear a bra if you want to? Especially if you think it might be harmful?

Alright, now I will shut up and butt out on that issue, because I am a firm believer that whatever power arrangement works for a couple is their business, and no one elses.

Now, as far as whether or not wearing a bra will cause you to "sag" later, I would be interested in knowing the answer to that. Why? I haven't worn a bra in two years now! I hate them and feel it is the equivalent of a man having to wear a necktie. Stuffy and confining! I love the feeling of going bra-less, and luckily for me, my guy also thinks that is just fine!

Am I causing damage to my breasts? I don't know. (I'm sure if you ask a male physician, he will say you are). There is no doubt that as you age, your breasts will sag some and lose elasticity. But does wearing a bra slow down or lessen the demise? Does going braless hasten or worsen the process? Anybody know of an authority we can check with? Anyone out there know for sure? Post a comment for us.

Tina,
Maybe if we can get you an accurate answer on this, you can make an informed decision and then reason it out with your husband.

Not sure what you meant about your daughter. What did you two fight about? Was she begging you to let her wear a bra or refusing to wear one?

Stay tuned,
Stella

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Found some answers
by: Anonymous

I researched this and it looks like the bra does not prevent sagging... only hides it.

There is evidence that bras can actually be harmful:

http://www.007b.com/bras_bare_facts.php

(But I do wear one to go jogging...)

So the verdict seems to be:

If you feel comfortable not wearing a bra, go for it; you are not causing any harm. Bras do not prevent sagging later in life.

If you do not feel comfortable going braless, either because of large heavy breasts, or because you just feel self-conscious, then wear one.

A bra is simply an optional fashion item, not a health device.

This interesting website gives more support :) for going braless:

http://www.goingbraless.net

Power Exchange? D/S
by: Anonymous

If this woman has some kind of power exchange thing going with the hubby or is in some kind of D/s, bdsm, master/slave thing, then he may not be a jerk and may be perfectly within his rights inside of their relationship.

Otherwise, Tina may want to seek some kind of compromise. But it should be a compromise. He is her husband and if he wants the bra off once in a while, even in public, that's cool. But it should not be all the time. It's unfortunate their daughter has been drug into this. Either she wants to be like mom or is protesting her parents' behavior.

Do As Your Husband Says
by: Sissy Leighanne

I do what my wife tells me.

My Rules
by: Anonymous

My husband has almost identical rules to yours, except that I'm also forbidden to wear panties outside of work. At work I'm permitted a thong, but never full briefs.

Friends and family all know of my husband's rules about underwear and over time they have become accustomed to seeing me braless. But in the early days I got a lot of ribbing from my sisters and girlfriends about this.

My husband and I had an agreement when we first started dating that if anyone commented on my braless state that I had to tell them that I was forbidden to wear any underwear.

On other occasions, my (then boyfriend) would select a person (usually female) that I would have to tell of my rules regarding underwear, or reveal that I was shaved bald down below, which was long before it became popular. This was sometimes quite embarrassing, but I always did it nonetheless. That's what love does to you, I suppose.

These days everyone knows of my conditions, so that part of the game no longer exists. Going without underwear is still as much of a challenge today as it was 14 years ago when I started doing it. I love my husband and still enjoy his challenges.

hubbys rules
by: ledrann

As a mom of 3 & 43 years old my husband always said how sexy I looked w/o a bra. I'm a 34C cup and still only have a bit of sag after 3 kids. So after a couple years I started doing it more and more. Soon it became the norm and eventually my bras all disappeared. As far as the panty thing goes- if I'm wearing a skirt or dress I'm commando. If I'm wearing pants or shorts all I wear is a g-string. It took a while to find the comfortable ones but I eventually found some all cotton types that are so comfortable it's like heaven.

Braless and HAPPY
by: Kathy

I gave up wearing bras in 1976. I have not worn one since; in fact I don't even own one. My husband loved it then, and loves it now. I was a 36B. I guess I have sagged a little over the yrs., but I think that has to do with age as well.

My husband and me live in a very secluded house and we are nudists as well. In the summer we have friends over to go swimming and have a bar b-q after. We all go swimming nude, and the women that go nude are in their 30s and late 40s. They can't believe that I am 67yrs old and have not worn a bra in all these yrs. So... be braless and happy!

No Bra Fun
by: Sonja

I am a 34 year old mother of two and very grateful and proud to have a figure similar to Tina's.

I developed early and decided in my late teens to go braless - much to the objections of my parents at the time. Although Tina wears a bra at work, I began introducing my no bra look on Free Dress Friday's several years ago. I gradually expanded to where I no longer wear a bra to work at all.

Although there have been a few awkward moments where comments were made about my look in meetings with male clients, my bosses have been very supportive of me and feel that, overall, my style of dress is positive for their travel agency business.

My husband is just great and can't keep his hands off me after 7 years of marriage. I also like to wear short skirts to complement my look - and on certain naughty days or evenings out with my husband, I leave my panties in the drawer.

I hope that Tina is able to enjoy her braless lifestyle and not worry too much about sagging. The way I see it: By the time the breasts begin to sag - likely so will everything else. Why worry?

Love to all,

Sonja From California

No bra
by: Anonymous

I think it's great that you are willing to forego your bra for your husband. Whatver turns him/you on! Hey, my wife went from being braless to wearing a bra (after kids) and now I find myself looking at other braless women both irl and online.

Husband consent
by: Anonymous

During a family reunion my husband remarked how my sister's husband stared at my braless nipples in the morning when I was fixing and serving them breakfast; but he did not reproach me. On the contrary he seemed rather proud than jealous.

Forbidden to wear a bra too
by: Linda

My gosh I thought I was the only one lol. My husband gave me a similar ultimatum 2 years ago. He told me I could only wear a bra for church, work or functions at our kids school; and when I get home it must come off. We argued about it for a while and then he pointed out that he never asks anything of me except this.

I gave in and gave him all of my bras. It was the only way for me to break the habit of getting up and putting a bra on. This was 2 years ago and I would swear my breasts are firmer and higher than they used to be when I wore a bra everyday.

I am 43 and a mother of 2 and I was self conscious at first, but I got over it. I think it was easier to start with because I started going without on vacation. We went away and didn't take a bra with me. Now I don't even think about it. I don't think I would go back now by choice.

Compromise
by: Netherlander

Dear Tina,

To work things out together in a relatioship is not allways easy and compromise is the magic word. Perhaps it's possible to find a bra that gives support and allows enough 'bounce'. I've seen them out there.

no bras owned here
by: Anonymous

I hate the confinement and uncomfortable feeling of a bra. I have large breasts 36 ddd, however, they are quite firm so I don't think bras help them stay firm, I think its all genetics. The only problem I run into at times is certain shirts do not hide my nipples as much as my husband would like. I have puffy nipples and if I wear petals on them, it makes them even more noticeable. It doesn't bother me, everyone has them, but my husband is bothered if anyone notices. It seems abnormal to bind your breasts. Let them breathe!

Never worn a Bra
by: Anonymous

When I first started to develop, my Mom wanted me to wear a bra and I tried, but it was so uncomfortable I couldn't wear it longer than an hour. Since then I have gotten married, had three children and nursed all three, and never owned or worn a bra. I am lucky because I am a 34b. I feel sorry for women with larger breasts that are stuck wearing bras daily. I am now 50 and still don't own or wear a bra. If your comfortable without one, don't wear it.

Bras
by: Melanie

I have a different problem. My HUSBAND insitst on wearing a bra to work. He has done so for the past five years and does it every day, as his manboobs are overdeveloped! Melanie

good article for u guys....
by: Sampath

whn im surfing the net i found this link and i got interested about ur discussion...so i searched for some details on this n i found these interesting details for you....

;)

Bras and breast cancer risk

Bra-wearing has been linked to breast cancer in a study done by Sidney Ross Singer and Soma Grismaijer. They found, for example, that women who wore a bra 24 hours a day had a 113-fold increase in breast cancer incidence compared to women who wore bra less than 12 hours daily! They suggest that bras exert enough pressure to the breast and surrounding areas to inhibit the flow of lymph, which then causes toxins and other waste material to remain in the breasts instead of being flushed out.

Now, this effect may be due to the fact that most women just wear the wrong size bra that is too tight somewhere. No one has done any studies investigating the link between breast cancer and how well the woman's bra fits. Either way, for your breast health's sake it is better to avoid wearing bras whenever possible, and for those occasions when you do need one, get well-fitting bras.

full story...
http://www.007b.com/why_wear_bras.php

awesome
by: Anonymous

score 1-10 =wow 25

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