Forbidden to Wear a Bra!

Forbidden to Wear a Bra!

by Tina
(Arkansas)

I am a just turned 31 year old, married, mother of an 11 year old girl. My husband insists that at nights, on weekends, and on vacations, including summer vacations from school, that I wear no bra. Bras are for work only. My husband told me in no uncertain terms that he absolutely forbids me to wear a bra during these times. He says this is natural, sexy, and that he likes the way my breasts bounce slightly without flopping or sagging.

Therein is the point. At 31 and by no means being flat chested, I am worried that my breasts will sag from the lack of support. Fortunately, I have never seen any evidence of this as I have remained firm. Also, my daughter has just started wearing a bra, which she fought me on because her father won't let me wear one.

How do I handle this?

Thanks,
Tina

From Stella:
First of all, Tina, at the risk of causing trouble between you and your husband, it's your body! Why would you let him "forbid" you to wear a bra if you want to? Especially if you think it might be harmful?

Alright, now I will shut up and butt out on that issue, because I am a firm believer that whatever power arrangement works for a couple is their business, and no one elses.

Now, as far as whether or not wearing a bra will cause you to "sag" later, I would be interested in knowing the answer to that. Why? I haven't worn a bra in two years now! I hate them and feel it is the equivalent of a man having to wear a necktie. Stuffy and confining! I love the feeling of going bra-less, and luckily for me, my guy also thinks that is just fine!

Am I causing damage to my breasts? I don't know. (I'm sure if you ask a male physician, he will say you are). There is no doubt that as you age, your breasts will sag some and lose elasticity. But does wearing a bra slow down or lessen the demise? Does going braless hasten or worsen the process? Anybody know of an authority we can check with? Anyone out there know for sure? Post a comment for us.

Tina,
Maybe if we can get you an accurate answer on this, you can make an informed decision and then reason it out with your husband.

Not sure what you meant about your daughter. What did you two fight about? Was she begging you to let her wear a bra or refusing to wear one?

Stay tuned,
Stella

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May 03, 2008

Found some answers
by: Anonymous

I researched this and it looks like the bra does not prevent sagging... only hides it.

There is evidence that bras can actually be harmful:

http://www.007b.com/bras_bare_facts.php

(But I do wear one to go jogging...)

So the verdict seems to be:

If you feel comfortable not wearing a bra, go for it; you are not causing any harm. Bras do not prevent sagging later in life.

If you do not feel comfortable going braless, either because of large heavy breasts, or because you just feel self-conscious, then wear one.

A bra is simply an optional fashion item, not a health device.

This interesting website gives more support :) for going braless:

http://www.goingbraless.net

May 08, 2008

Power Exchange? D/S
by: Anonymous

If this woman has some kind of power exchange thing going with the hubby or is in some kind of D/s, bdsm, master/slave thing, then he may not be a jerk and may be perfectly within his rights inside of their relationship.

Otherwise, Tina may want to seek some kind of compromise. But it should be a compromise. He is her husband and if he wants the bra off once in a while, even in public, that's cool. But it should not be all the time. It's unfortunate their daughter has been drug into this. Either she wants to be like mom or is protesting her parents' behavior.

Jul 18, 2008

Do As Your Husband Says
by: Sissy Leighanne

I do what my wife tells me.

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