Hubby Wants to Meet Evil Mom
I am a 23 year old new mom. My husband wants to meet my mom and have her as a part of our lives. We are in Texas. She is in Florida. She made a plea of my husband to meet with her.
At one time, I thought I had the coolest mom a girl could have. Then, some kids at school framed me for something. My mom would not believe me and paddled my ass for it (at age 12!). A few days later, I conclusively proved my innocence and cleared my name. My mom was like sorry about that... as if that was supposed to be the end of it.
I hated her totally from that point on. I moved in with my dad out of state and cut my mom out of life as much as possible until age 18, when at my high school graduation, which she came to uninvited, I told her we were done.
The last time we talked was 3 years ago, when she "tried again". I feel like she failed me as a parent and have had no interest in reconciling; however, my husband wants me to rehire her as my mom and let her into our lives. I have thought of my mother as evil incarnate since I was 12. What should I do?
I gar-on-tee you are not going to like my answer!
Your husband sounds like a peach, wanting to open his heart to accept your Mom. But you are still a hurt little 12 year old, unwilling to forgive and forget. If what you relate is all she did to you, and you ended up hating her for that mistake, then you truly are a mean-spirited and immature girl.
Sounds like your Mom really wants to reconcile. Do you really want to deprive your children of their grandmother? Do you want your husband to think you are selfish and unforgiving? Why not meet your Mom half-way? Call her today. Tell her you are sorry for so many wasted years, and that you want to see her. You would make her so happy.
Bury the hatchet, Kristin. Forgiveness is liberating, while hate consumes you. And life is oh so short.