LOVE STEP 1- HONEST SELF APPRAISAL
TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT
(YES, IN THE
STELLA'S SELF APPRAISAL ADVICE
So, tired of being alone, are ya? Been on the
dating scene for a while, but
haven't "hooked up" with that special someone? Relationship or marriage
Well, do something about it! You have the power to make
happen! But, first you must realize... the problem is not with THEM......change must start with YOU.
This is not to place all the work on the woman, we are simply saying that
only YOU have the power to make changes in YOUR own life... be you man or woman.
So, the first step--to do an
honest self appraisal on yourself. Let's
take a look at your appearance first. Strip down NAKED, and
stand in front of a full-length mirror. (Hee hee)
Honestly, what do you see?
Pasty white rolls of fat? Gut hanging
out? Too many beers and Big
Macs? Super-size them fries? Hit
the couch and clicker the minute
you get home?
You've let yourself go! We've got to work
on this... The best novel
in the world won't be read
unless the dustcover is attractive and
eye-catching. Sad but true!
Do you sometimes run into Wal-Mart in cutoff jeans,
a sloppy t-shirt
and dirty hair?
Hope you don't run into anybody you know?
Maybe you won't... but
that might just be your future soulmate standing behind you in the checkout
line. And you'll never find out, because all he saw was greasy hair and a chubby
old butt hanging out. (Honest self appraisal hurts a little, you know?)
Resolve right now to never go out in
public unless you have on nice, clean clothes, and are well-groomed. We are
talking to you guys here, too. Treat every
trip out as a potential opportunity to meet someone... look your best... present
an attractive "dustcover" to the world... because you never know when it'll
Alright, so we went off on a
tangent... now, now where were we? Oh, yeah,
in front of that mirror. Study yourself. Time for honest self appraisal. Make
a list of your positive
and negative physical attributes. Separate them
1. Positives--think of ways to accentuate
these--(examples: healthy hair? Shampoo
daily, get expert haircut. Pretty eyes?
Play them up with makeup- great help with
this in Step 4)
2. Negatives-but easy to change--work on
these now (example: toss out sloppy,
unflattering clothing- and show no mercy-
spring for some new threads--we'll show
you how in Step 4)
3. Negatives & difficult to change--to be
worked on in Step 2 (examples: you know;
quitting smoking, etc.)
4. Negatives & impossible to change: Accept
now what you just can't change...(and
surgery for you!)
...LIFE IS GOOD, YOU KNOW?
YOUR SECRET WEAPON...ATTITUDE
Alright, you've had a good look at your
BODY. Now, and more importantly... time to look at your ATTITUDE. More self appraisal.
What is your take on love and
romance? Obviously, you want it in
life... or you wouldn't be here. And my guess is that you are alone
one of these two reasons:
1. You have an urgent or frantic feeling about all
You are trying too hard to attract a
partner. You are desperate to find your true
love... NOW. Well, guess what? Needy
desperation is poison to relationships. And
you can't hide it... you have to get rid of it!
OR, 2. You're
the opposite. You're "not ready for
love" 'til you get your life together. (Gotta
accomplish all my goals, and get myself
perfect and ready... then I'll go out and find
love). Keep playing this "someday" game...
THE GOOD, THE BAD...
The bad news is this: love is on a
separate plane, a separate agenda.
You cannot put it on your "to do" list. You can't make love happen...
That's just not the way it works.
The good news is this: You will
find that partner, that soulmate. It
won't happen on your schedule, and it might not happen soon, but you
have to go on trust here. Doing the most you can for yourself is all
you can do. And, given enough time, good things and happiness will
come into your life. And a mate, if that's what you want. Self appraisal is the
first step to success.
We kicked this one around for a long time
'til we got it down in black-and-white. Here it is, and please take it to heart: Give it up for now!
need to work on making you happy with yourself first. Here's
"secret weapon" when it comes to attitude:
It's only when you let go of your need to have
someone, that things begin to happen. When you chase it, it eludes
you. But when you give up your need for it, it enters your
life. And that's the truth!
Now then, that wasn't so bad, was it?
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