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LOVE STEP 8 - SELF ESTEEM ARTICLEFULL CIRCLE- READY...SET...STOP!
This website is all about finding and keeping love. But we're going to step aside here for a moment, forget about all that, and talk about a different kind of love--- love for yourself. This is the heart of the whole matter, and probably the most important step of all.
Go ahead, get yourself in shape, improve your
appearance, get rid of
some
nasty habits. Educate yourself on dating etiquette. Then, relax.
Take time out to enjoy the new, improved model. It's time now for
you to come to the point where you honestly, sincerely don't care if
you get a date or not. And if you've recently gone through a painful parting,
read this solid advice for
Surviving a Breakup. Easy for us to say, huh? But how do you do this? Learn to love yourself? We each had different ways of explaining it, so we figured that if each of us told our story, and how we came to peace, you might find your own path to happiness, too... SELF ESTEEM ARTICLE
I've always had a lot of self-esteem, so
this was pretty easy for me.
I have four older brothers, and they always made me feel special, so
I already knew I was special from a young age. When it came to
romance, I decided I was going to continue being special, too. Did
you know that you can actually be yourself and win in the game of
love? Tennis, anyone? SELF ESTEEM ARTICLE
I always look at things from a mystical,
philosophical point of view.
I believe in spirits, and souls, and angels, and that everything
happens for a reason. And, I believe you have the power within you
to make your own good luck in love. How? Quit thinking there's
someone out there who can give you all the love you need. That's
nonsense! SELF ESTEEM ARTICLE
Hey, how are ya? I'm not talking about
physical passion here, you
know. I'm talking about soul passion. The good things in life. The
stuff that really makes you happy! What is it for you? The sublime
scent of your perfect rose garden? The velvety touch of a
horse's
muzzle? The haunting music from your own violin? The feel of
warm
salt spray on your skin as you conquer windsurfing? I could go on
and
on here, but I think you get the point. Finding a mate is not nearly
as
important as becoming your own person and following your passion.
.....Peace, sister...
SELF ESTEEM ARTICLE
I guess you might say I'm the lover of
the group. I like people, love
to party. I was the girl who always had a boyfriend in school. But I've
also
had
my lonely times. And times when I felt desperate to find a
lover.
few years ago, I went through a sad and difficult divorce. Afterwards, I quickly found out it wasn't quite as easy to find a good boyfriend as it was in high school. After divorce, there is a tendency to panic. That's why so many new divorcees foolishly jump immediately back into matrimony...you know, the rebound effect. Scared to be alone. Luckily, I didn't make that mistake. Anyway, there I was, divorced, lonesome
and alone, trying to learn
the new dating game in my thirties. I finally got tired of all the crap,
and just decided to let go. Boy, did that feel
good! I didn't give up
on love or men, I just quit worrying about it. I gave up control. I
quit
paddling upstream. I just let that canoe turn around and lazily float
downstream, with the flow.
SELF ESTEEM ARTICLE
Yeah, it's me, and if you've been
following my story in this website,
you kinda know a little bit about my past. I was married for 17 years
before my divorce. I then spent years searching for a soul mate.
I was rusty and trying too
hard and went through a couple of less
than ideal relationships. I honestly don't know what helped me to let go, but I do give some credit to meditation and prayer. Man, it was delicious to let go. A sense of inner peace came over me. A celestial sedative! I started to make plans for pursuing my passion, scuba diving. The heck with dating, I was sick of the whole scene. I was going diving. Something else happened to me about this
time. I'm not sure exactly
what brought this on, either. I just started forgiving myself,
accepting myself, with all my imperfections. Kinda like I made peace
with myself. Well, that's my story. Soon afterward, a wonderful, special man with a big heart and warm arms entered my life...unexpected but very welcome. And I honestly believe that though we met, we would not have connected and started dating if I hadn't come to a peaceful, self-confident stage in my life.
SELF ESTEEM ARTICLE
True hope here. This book can create a
true miracle for you. It's a
hands-on guide to transforming your life. Through meditation
and
soul-searching exercises, the author guides you through spiritual
housecleaning. Kathy states: "Miracles are always coming toward us, more abundantly than you could ever imagine. It is simply a matter of being open and ready to receive them. Our stillness is the ideal ground in which to plant that seed of perfect partnership." We feel that Kathy's book truly embodies everything we've tried to say in this section, and gives you a step-by-step guide to follow. She's got it figured. Grab this book. And come full circle. Self esteem article...
By now, you have seen how truly important we feel this step is for you. Just for good measure, we've got one last article for you: Be True to Yourself to Find True Love. It's worth the read. So, that's our self esteem article... our wish is that one of these stories helps you find yourself and come to peace. Do you know someone else who could benefit from this page? Then share the wealth, it's easy to do! Go on to Step 9-- our gateway to the second part of this website... keeping love alive. |
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By Kathy Freston 
