loves me loves me not

by Maggie
(Canada)

Dear Stella,
I am a 50 year old woman and have been dating a 51 year old man for 13 months. I told him 7 months ago that I have strong feelings for him; he said he liked things the way they were. He has never been married but had been in a relationship 29 years ago and has a 26 year old daughter.

He seems to have a problem with showing emotion. He steers clear of serious conversation and is very outspoken. He talks alot. I have things to say and half the time I forget as he keeps talking about other things. His cats, golf game on tv or hockey. We do play a lot of board games. We do a lot together as in bowling and we go to the movies.

But I need him to at least tell me he cares for me, sit with me on the couch instead of his chair. He buys me a lot of things. Not jewelry, but that is fine. I am not looking for a commitment or marriage I have been there twice in 30 years. I have two grown children. I am slim and look after myself. I am independent.

But just want to know how much does he care for me or does he love me? How can I bring up the subject without him putting up his 4 walls? Thank you in advance

Maggie