maybe there really is no fool like an old fool ...
by Joshua Banks
48 hours ago, I was on a dating site, when this women initiated a chat with me. Having been scammed 3 or 4 times already, I pretty much now know a lot of the signs when being approached by a scammer.
She asked for my text number, but I declined, but then I finally & reluctantly gave her my personal email, as I was curious where all of this was going, and I figured I could maintain better control of our communications via email, in case she really was a scammer.
So, now it's been 48 hours, and we've been corresponding about 4 hours a day. I became suspicious when she revealed that she was currently in the military, and based in a part of the world where scammers are abundant. She, however, maintains that her being in that part of the world is just part of her assignment.
After these 48 hours, I still won't give her my text number, so thus far, we've only communicated by email. But it gets worse ...
I originally posted on the dating site as being 55 ... she is 30, although I very quickly, within the first few emails, revealed to her that I am actually significantly older than 55, even though she had already seen my recent photos( I look much younger than my true age )
However, this hasn't dissuaded her in the least, and she seems to think she & I have a future together, meaning, she wants to eventually marry me and start having my babies !!!!
I've never been married and
I have no children, so I have to admit, the thought of a somewhat cute(but not beautiful) 30 year old woman wanting to marry me and start having my babies is intriguing & very compelling, and it would make up for a lot of the mistakes I've made with my life, up until now.
However, we don't seem to connect that well via our email correspondence, but maybe that's just one of the inherent downsides of only communicating electronically. But also, I keep looking at her photo, and I keep asking myself, "do I see myself with this woman"(?) ... And the answer keeps coming back ... "No" !!
Truthfully, the only thing that keeps me responding to her emails is the thought that she might very well be my last chance to redeem myself ... to at long last have the normal( albeit late ) marriage relationship I never had, and maybe even kids.
Additionally, I've also been considering the financial consequences of raising children. I've already secured away my retirement nestegg, and I will probably need that money to supplement my social security, and see me through my old age.
If I was actually in love with this woman, this would be a whole different ball game. I'd probably already be making the arrangements for the life we would start building together. But, I keep looking at her photo, and I keep asking myself that same question, "do I see myself with this woman"(?) ... And the answer still keeps coming back ... "No" !!
So, maybe I just answered my own question.