How I ended up giving advice about love
    and romance...
            ... from my own website!


My name is Stella, and I am an RN, grief counselor, and hydroponics nut. How does all that make me an expert on love? Well, it doesn't. But I was once in the same pickle you are in now... lonesome and alone...  I found my way to my soul mate, and I think I can help you do the same.

This website originally was created by a group of women, me and some of my closest friends. The ideas flowed, the heartbreaking stories of past love affairs… the lessons learned from the school of romance “hard knocks”… and the realization that we all had somehow succeeded… we had all found our soul mates!

And we figured our collective wisdom might make for an interesting and useful website, to help other men and women find happiness in love as we had. And so the seed of was planted.


But although enthusiastic in the beginning, my friends drifted away from the project when it came to the reality of actually building a website. But I have persevered for four years now, and remain the webmaster of a very popular website (well, actually three sites… keep on reading).

Okay, so now you know a little bit more about Dear Stella. I might not have a PhD in Love, but what I do have is a fun website chock-full of excellent common-sense advice on love, dating and relationships. Just keep exploring, and you are sure to find what you need in here.


But back to my story…

Many people envy my lifestyle. Seems like everyone I know wants to work from home these days. They remind me how difficult, tiring, and soul-killing the 9 to 5 grind is, how expensive gas is, and that they dream about earning a living from home too. Problem is, they don’t know how to even get started on such an undertaking. Is it really possible for them to do what I did?

About 4 years ago, I was also at that point in my life. 12 hour shifts in the ICU were taking their toll on my physical (and emotional) health.  But I found a solution, I overcame the obstacles, and so can you. How? Read my story...


Leaving the Hospital Was The best move I ever made!


It was a scary thing, to leave a top-paying professional job. But I was a burnt-out ICU nurse and I needed a break! And when I finally quit bedside nursing, I decided I wasn’t going to trade one miserable job for another. I was dead set on staying home for a change. I found a job typing medical reports online. Although it was a huge cut in pay, it provided health insurance, and I was so happy working online in my home office, far from the madding crowd. My mental health was worth it.

I gradually realized though, that I needed another source of income in order to make ends meet. If not, I was destined to return to that dreaded hospital work. How could I possibly go back after saying my final farewell to all those other poor souls who were stuck there? They thought I was crazy to leave the security of hospital work, and I was darned if I’d prove them right! 


The solution...

       ...was sitting right in front of me!


My computer! Although the brainstorming for the first site, this one, involved my friends, I was actually the only one who saw the real potential there. Could I possibly make a living on the internet? The notion excited me, and I jumped on it. But I didn't know a thing about building a website! Was it hard? Could I learn how to do it?

I went online and started educating myself. I bought a beautiful page template, and invested in Front Page, software which automatically turns your typing into html (web language). I thought I was good to go. But then I found out about the search engines, and I learned that it wasn't enough just to put together a beautiful web page, you have to get it on page one or two of a Google search, or no one will ever see it! (Or buy your stuff).

Hmmm....  more to it than I thought. But I was not ready to give up my dream yet. There I was, poised to sign up for an online "search engine optimization" e-course when I came across something in a book I had bought about Front Page.

There tucked away in "Other Options to Consider"  was this short entry:

"Site Build It is a unique all-in-one approach to Web site marketing and sales that provides considerably much more than the traditional Web hosting package. It is truly a one-of-a-kind company and system that is worth seriously looking at.

Included in this unique service is a series of automated marketing tools and traffic building features that are too numerous to list here. Site Build it is the only service of its kind and should be examined by anyone looking at Web strategy options". *



I did... I bought... and the rest is history. This , Findlove-Keeplove, was my first website, and I put it together using SBI (Site Build It). My girlfriends helped with some of the content, and contributed lots of relationship advice, but the actual nuts and bolts of building a website was left to me.

I'll be honest with you. There was some hard work in the beginning as my "learning curve" peaked. But the process got much easier, the traffic built up, and the profits started coming in, that made it easier, too.

Site number two, Recover From Grief, came about as an extension of my "day job" as a nurse and grief counselor. I get a lot of satisfaction from helping grieving souls through this website, and it has proven a much “better fit” for me in the nursing arena. By the way, as of this writing, I am making more profit from the grief site than the other two! Passion sells.

Now my partner, Simon, and I have recently created my third website,, to celebrate our love for hydro and help spread the word about this healthy, clean and green gardening method. This site is in its infancy, but is already getting lots of enthusiastic visitors and positive feedback.

You don’t need three websites to succeed (I’m just a website junkie… never have known the meaning of the word moderation). There have been many SBI success stories from just one site. You can get some more ideas from what other SBIers are doing. Just have a look at the  Case Studies .


Today, I earn a substantial income from my websites. I probably work on them an hour or two a day, and I truly love doing it, because I chose niches I was passionate about. [I still do some online nursing reports, for supplemental income and to keep the medical insurance]. Each morning I brew a big pot of coffee, and start checking my email in my PJs. Mama Cat keeps an eye on me every day) :-)

                          See what I have to deal with?

Have you recently found yourself among the unemployed, or does your household need some extra income in order to survive these tough financial times? Or do you just want the freedom and calm lifestyle that working from home provides? Then give the  Site Build It! system a look-see.  Creating a website could change your life, just like it did mine!

"Never be afraid to try something new; remember, amateurs built the ark, professionals built the Titanic."


P.S.: Since we posted this page, it has generated a lot of feedback and questions about SBI. So we decided to put together this  FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions).

Good luck to you!



*[Using FrontPage 2003, © 2004 by Paul Colligan and Jim Cheshire, p934].


Links to other two websites:

Recover From Grief
Hydroponics Simplified