MILF

by Milf
(Texas)

I need advice... not a lecture...i need to know what HE is thinking..here's my story. Last summer, i accidentally met a 17 year old guy through my daughter. I am newly divorced. Something happened... i fell for this guy. HARD. Here is the catch.. i started talking to him as someone else and as an 18 year old. I couldn't tell him the truth because i fell in love with him and i was afraid to lose him. He made me remember what it was like to be 18 again. The guilt has killed me. I finally told him the truth... revealed my age (36) and what i look like. He was broken hearted. But he also admitted to being very attracted to the real me. We agreed that he needed to be 18 before we meet in person. He is dating a girl now... who is polar opposite of everything he said he wanted in a girl. She has issues, smokes some, piercings, looks slutty, etc. It's def a rebound, but i think he thinks he can "save" her. I am worried about him and think he is rebelling and that she is how he is coping with the revelations of the intense relationship we had. We had no contact for nearly 3 weeks. i gave him space. Then he called me one night to talk. Said his gf has issues but he is still with her... taking one day at a time.. we just talked. Then a week past... he called me again. Last night he sent me a pic if his new haircut... it took my breath away. He looked amazing. Then I sent him some innocent pics of me. He never responded until the next morning. I asked him what he thought. All he said is "idk what to say".
Here is where Im confused... he says he is VERY attracted to me... he wants to meet me when he's 18 in a few months... if he's single...
What do the calls mean and what does "idk what to say" mean?
Is he keeping contact because he truly has feelings for me and is curious?
Im not looking for "forever"... but i do love him and want to meet him. He had a huge impact on my heart and in my life for almost a year. I need to see him, apologize to him face to face for not being honest up front... i didn't know how cause i really love him and was scared to lose him. Friends with benefits is okay with me... i just need to know what his actions mean... i cant ask him cause i dont want to stress him. We are starting over and i want a friendship. He is amazing... very mature for his age... i didn't ask for this to happen. It just did and i want to finish what we started. He fell in love with a picture of one person but MY personality...the good news is I am attractive and he says I'm def a Milf... which is almost every guys fantasy... Need advice on his actions.... not a lecture

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Answer from Stella:

Dear MILF,

I don't give lectures here, nor do I judge people. But you did write in asking for advice, so I will give it my best shot...

If I read your post correctly, two facts really stand out:
1. You originally provided a fake picture of yourself to him online; misrepresented yourself.
2. You have never met him face to face yet.

Once he turns 18, I have nothing to say about the age difference, although it would handicap your chances of a successful relationship. Why? Just the differences in life experience and culture.

The major obstacles that make this such an "iffy" match is the deception and the fact that you cannot truly be in love with someone you have never met! Please read these excerpts from our website:

"...you are using it as a tool to avoid the real thing... face-to-face love. And don't go thinking you could actually fall in love with someone you have never met...cause that's just not reality...that is...fantasyland..."

"Don't lie with your photo. Do NOT post your college yearbook picture if you've since had 3 kids and put on 30 lbs. It's lying, and it'll come back and bite you in the butt. Use a current picture, please."

My best advice to you, is to let this go. He already has a girlfriend. He was speechless when he found out your true age. And so he did call you a MILF... but that speaks nothing of love, does it?

I doubt you will like or take my advice, put I promised my best shot, so here it is.

Hope this helps!

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its me... milf
by: Anonymous

we have talked for a year... been through alot... we luce in different states. i am using CURRENT pu tires of myself and am happy to say that i have a great body still! No shane there! As for falling in love... i dont expect forever. i just know i love him. i was asking about HIS actions since he found out the truth AND found out that i am very attractive. Despite having a gf, he still calls and we talk and send innocent pics. We are maintaining a friendship until he tirns 18 in a couple of months. We want to meet and see what happens. i told him he needs to date... and so am i.... but those feelings are there.
Guys actions are so hard to read cause we think differently.

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