My girlfriend doesn't trust me and has now left me
by Michael
(Oak Hill, WV USA)
The title pretty much says it all. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and I love her more than anything on this Earth. I would give up everything I ever owned for this girl, I would even give my life for her.
But despite this, she has said I couldn't be trusted, and she left me. She constantly accused me of cheating on her, though I have never been unfaithful to anyone. I can't find the power to cheat on someone I'm with. I believe a relationship should be 100% monogamous on both sides.
The reason she left was she found an email I had written to an online friend that said "Well I miss you and hope to see you soon", which I meant purely as " see you online soon" as in, talk to you soon. Well, my girlfriend had been sneaking on to my email accounts and reading everything, spying on me. She found this and stated that this was grounds for leaving.
I have no real-life female friends, only a couple online that I've chatted with for years. I do not persue any online dating or romance of any sort and that is not why I speak to them. It's simply to talk to someone because I don't have many friends in my normal life.
However, my girlfriend has a multitude of male friends. The day she left me in fact, she spent with a male friend of hers. She says that she has been faithful, though, and they are merely friends.
So my question is, what do I do? I love this girl with all of my heart as I said before. I'd walk through the fires of hell for her. The idea of her just walking out on me, under the accusation that I was unfaithful, has devastated me, so now I come to you, with no where else to turn, seeking some form of advice if you would be so kind as to provide it?
Thank you.
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FROM STELLA:
Dear Michael,
I strongly suspect that she was going to break up with you anyway, she just picked this excuse to justify her actions. Honestly, from an outside viewpoint, that's how I see it. I think she has moved on. Sorry to be blunt, and I know you are hurting, but chances don't sound good for a future with her.
My advice: let her go. Lie low and don't press things with her. Try to carry on with your life and turn to other interests for a while. Perhaps with some time and space away from you, she will discover her true feelings. If you two belong together, she will come back to you, if not, she won't. I know this sounds trite, but in your case, I believe it fits.
Good luck to you,
Stella
