My head is spinning!!!

by Jess
(Iowa City, Iowa, USA)

I am 27 years old and have been in an off and on relationship with a man for a year and a half. We'd been together for 3 months when I found out I was pregnant. I thought we were in love (he told me he loved me & asked me to move in with him) and I also thought we were happy.

But shortly after we found out about the pregnancy (which he told me he wanted), he started cheating on me with his ex. They were together for almost 10 years and have a 4 yr old son together. He cheated on me all throughout my pregnancy with her. I had a suspision he was, and eventually he admitted it. I told him I would stay with him and that we would work through our problems.

But shortly after that he kicked me out on the streets on my pregnant butt, to go back to her. So I stopped talking to him for awhile. But he weasled his way back into my life by telling me that she was his biggest mistake and that he regretted ever hurting me and that we needed to be a family. So I took him back, then 2 months later I had our baby girl.

Since having our daughter, he started spoiling me with attention, affection, fancy dinners, he even bought me a beautiful diamond engagement ring and proposed to me. After all this time, he's now trying hard to make up for all of his horrible mistakes.

But I don't know if he's sincere. And I don't know if he's still cheating. But my biggest dilemma is that after everything he's done, I really don't know if I want to be with him or not. I know we should be together for the sake of our little girl, but i just don't know if i can. Please help me!!

Answer from Stella:

Jess,
Follow your instincts. A cheating man is a cheating man. Will you ever trust this man?

P.S.: Never stay together just for the sake of children. They end up suffering terribly if they grow up in an unhappy home.

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