Reading the Signs

I am 41 years old and am ready to settle down. I have never been married and have only been in one serious relationship that lasted about 10 months. I am not in a hurry and if it takes 10 years that's fine, but I think it would be nice to start dating again. I have known this guy for a while, he is in my pool league, and we have talked a couple of times. He has been through a terrible divorce in the past. Everyone tells me he likes me he is just "gun shy" so I am polite but I am not going to ask him out or anything. Well he called me and asked me to dinner, I agreed and he picked me up and paid and then hung out at my place til about 11 pm before going home. (nothing but talking) During our conversation I told him I was training for a triatholon, he said it sounded like fun and would like to train with me. No problem, right? so we hang out on occasion then he is like, I am really busy at work and then I won't hear from him for a couple weeks and then he will call to hang out again. I am fine with just being friends if that is all he wants, but I would also be willing to date him. I don't want to scare him off by asking him out but then again I am not the most "open" with my feelings and all my friends say I am hard to read, so I don't want to put him off. I just can't tell what he wants. Any suggestions?


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