Renewing an Old Relationship

by Emily
(Wisconsin)

I am 41 and have renewed a relationship with a man who fathered my daughter when we were both in college. We never married, but he acknowledged and took care of her.

He went on to become one of the richest people in our state and our daughter never lacked for anything except maybe him because he traveled a lot.

Being with him seems natural as though we were never apart. The problem is that he's temperamental, not abusive, just a little moody at times. If we go out together and he gets mad at me about something, he will call someone to come pick me up and take me home because he does not want to be around me right now.

I will try to find something, like his favorite alcoholic beverage as a peace offering. His anger won't show, but I'll know he's mad and have to wait for it to blow over. During this time, if he wants sex, he will just tell me to "Go to the bedroom and strip. I'll be there in a few minutes".

With my friends and family, he sort of has a way of almost covering them, almost taking them over without them even realizing it.

How do I deal with these times? Besides these times, he's the sweetest guy in the world.

Thanks,

Emily
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From Stella:

Hi Emily,

If you want to spend the rest of your life being emotionally abused and controlled, then go for it! But this whole situation obviously bothers you very much or you would not have written in.

He sounds like a total a-h from where I sit.

Good luck to you, I know you deserve better.
Stella.