The old 1-2
Me and my fiance have been together for about a year now. We were in love from the very start and our relationship moved fast. We moved in after a month, engaged at 7 months, and plan to marry next year.
We were going to do it this summer but I wanted to give it a breather so we can work out some of the things I feel need working on.
I am only the second woman he has been intimate with. The first one broke his heart and it took him a long time to recover. By the way i am 29 and he is 27.
He has a boat load of issues, intimacy and otherwise, that we are trying to work out. But my main concern, or at least the one we are trying to tackle at the moment, is I feel we missed too many steps in our foundation cause we moved so fast.
In the beginning, he said he was romantic and gave me examples of things he did or likes to do and said because he was hurt he needed time, because he was scared of being hurt again.
We never really went out on dates and he always lets me decide; he never plans for anything, everything is always on me.
Am I being selfish cause I'd like him to plan a dinner every now and again and do something out of the blue to say I love you? We never had that and I want it cause now i feel empty like she got all the good and i got the shell of what's left.
Am I crazy... it's ok if I am, just another quirk in my personality; but I need an outside opinion to ground myself before I go off the deep end.
Thanks - Lisa