weary girl

by joyce
(South Carolina)

I broke up with a long term live-in BF, but reunited with him approx 5 months ago. He arranged counseling for us both, and paid for it. Previously, I made mistakes, and so did he, but I love him and wanted to try again. I knew he was visiting a woman on the coast who was the daughter of a long time friend of his (50 years), and I assumed they were just friends. He's known her since she was born. My BF is 67 yrs old, and the woman is 43 yrs old. She is a phone sex operator also. I was concerned about this relationship, but he assured me it was strictly platonic, etc. I also knew he had given her some $$ to pay bills, etc. in the past. That contributed to our break up because he was letting our bills go and paying hers. I have since discovered that he has been giving this woman at least $1000.00 a month (including making her car payment). This has caused great stress and conflict, as you can imagine. At one point he took me to meet her, and she had the audacity to tell me that I had "deserved and asked for" an injury I received as a result of a domestic violence incident with my BF. The visit did not go well, to say the least. My BF acts like this woman walks on water. He sits around waiting on her calls and texts, then goes into the garage so I can't overhear the conversation. I feel like I have been pulled into a love triangle not of my own making. She is not great looking and is actually very overweight. I don't see the appeal. He would never go to a store like Goodwill with me, but jumps at the chance to go with her. What gives? Why would he be so insistent on having me move back home and reconciliation if he's involved in this? I don't get it! I can't move right now and am stuck for the time being. He even lied to me one weekend and said his mom had a heart attack and he had to go to Ohio to see her, but I later found out he was in Wilmington with this woman. What do you think?-------------------------------

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