What to do?

by Julia
(Weymouth, MA, U.S.)

I'm in love with someone! I know, I'm only 14, but I really am in love. Only problem is, I don't know if he likes me. I know he's had a crush on an idiotic blonde who treats him like crap, and only makes out with him once in a while for attention. We flirt a lot, but I'm not sure if that really means he likes me. We are graduating from middle school in less than 2 months. I don't have a cell phone, facebook, or any of those things, and since we are going to different high schools, I want to know if I should risk total humiliation and tell him I love him.

I can't imagine a world without this boy, but at the same time, if he isn't interested, that could be extremely embarrassing! I'm so confused right now. The only thing I'm sure about is that I am in love with him. I need your advice more than ever, please help me!


Answer from Stella:

Hi Julia,

NO, NO, NO... do NOT tell him you love him. He will run away and never look back! What you might do instead is invite him to go somewhere with you, some place innocent and not too pushy, like out to the mall with some friends, or to a school dance or even help with homework. Just some non-threatening way to let him know you are interested.

But NOT that you love him! Trust me on this one.

Hope this helps!

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Just tell him
by: Kathryne Jane (Hong Kong)

If I was in your situation , I would tell him how I really felt, don't care if you get embarass or what, at least he would think about it, that someone like you is loving him, rather than making him feel a crap. So just do it, be brave girl.. I know you can do it.. It's better telling him than keeping it.. Wish you Luck.. and always be HAPPY, you're young and be Brave..


Don't Worry
by: Lissa

I was in the same boat a couple months ago. I'm only 15. And the best thing I could do was keep my feelings to myself. Don't tell him about it. He might possibly feel the same way about you, but then he might not. You have to let him speak for himself before you make a fool of yourself. I told my friends. And yes, that was a mistake. They went and told him. He liked some other girl. Much like the blonde that treats the guy you like like crap. But i got over him. I moved on and I found this sweetheart. But what I'm saying is, open yourself up to more guys. Don't goggle yourself on one who might not even feel the same.

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