by Sarah

I'm a 22 year old girl and I've never been in a committed relationship. I fell for someone a couple years ago but it didn't work out the way I had hoped. Although I still care about him, there's no hope for me as he's with someone else. Now I'm surrounded by coupled up or engaged friends, and I can't help but feel lonely and left out. I find myself worrying that I'll never meet someone special and that I'll spend the rest of my life alone. I don't think I can handle that. Could you give me some much needed advice? Thanks so much.


Answer from Stella:

OMG Sarah! You are only 22 years old! Please, relax and quit worrying about this. A true love will come into your life when the time is right. Love can not be "ordered up" or hurried.

Actually, you could have written this letter about me several years ago. When I was 20 years old, I fell in love, and it did not work out. I was very hurt and just like you, I was worried I might be single forever. At the age of 20! I married another guy at the age of 22. I thought I loved him, but it was really just a rebound decision.

I sorely regretted my decision. Two kids and 20 years later, we finally divorced. I could not spend the rest of my life in misery.

I think you should be careful not to do what I did. And you came to the right place for this kind of advice. Please click on the button "Plan For Love" on the left and read all the steps... and pay careful attention especially to Step 8- Full Circle.

Good luck and hope this helps!

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